51 Women Reveal Which Behaviors By Men Are Their Biggest Turn Offs

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    Text - Not being able to see the world in a context other than their own. Thinking that their worldview is the only one that matters. My friend and I were discussing how one of our supervisors was a shitty person, and this kid walks over to interrupt us and say "well he's nice to me so l don't see what the big deal is", as if anyone asked or cared. Listen to people before telling them they're wrong. You may not have the whole story
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    Text - Guys that are into the idea of me, but not necessarily me. For instance, they will buy me roses, dainty little diamonds, and take me to concerts. There is nothing wrong with that but nothing really right either. After a while, I want them to know me. I want them to know that I like daisies and gladiolus but like a potted plant even more. Roses remind me of death and bribery. I like cheap statement jewelry and I hate big crowds and a lot of noise. The most romantic guy I ever went out with
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    Text - 2 things: 1. Clinginess. I've dated guys that aren't trying to date me... They're trying to date. Anyone. So they don't bother to get to know me but act like we're married, expecting to see me every night and calling several times a day. Like if I only met you three weeks ago..you need to cool it. 2. Uncontrolled temper. There is no excuse for acting like every little annoyance is a world ending catastrophe. I understand that people have bad days but if the fire alarm going off when you w
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    Text - 100% ALWAYS dominating the conversation. If I'm hanging out with my male cousins (recently had a family reunion, hence why this was the first example that came to mind), they never let me have a damn word in. In high school during class discussions, the dudes would constantly interrupt me and the other women who were trying to contribute to the contribution. Never letting me have a word is enough, but if you interrupt me on top of it I will instantly lose so much fucking respect for you.
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    Text - I have something I call the Big Gay Man test. If you (a straight man) would be uncomfortable with a gay man who is much bigger and stronger than you saying something to you, don't say it to a woman. "That's a lovely sweater!" A thoughtful compliment! Makes your day a little brighter. "Alright sweetheart, you be careful out there." He smiles suggestively at you. Uncomfortable? Yeah. Don't do that to women This also applies to physical contact. Handshake? Good. Hand on your shoulder while s
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    Text - Being selfish and hypocritical is something I really dislike in anyone, man or woman. If you used to constantly sleep on a friend's floor and you get pissed the one time someone in your social circle dials you and says, "My mom kicked me out, can I stay over?", I will have a low opinion of you
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    Text - TED-talking me. When they go on and on about their job/passion/life story and don't let me speak. Being passionate is great, but please let me contribute to the conversation too!
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    Text - Trying to convince me to do something after I've said no. An after dinner cocktail, sex, a sport or activity I'm afraid to do, weed, literally every man I have ever dated has taken "no" as an opportunity for coercion. In high school my boyfriend used to guilt me into drinking or smoking weed with him, saying he didn't wanna look stupid being inebriated alone while I was coherent. On the occasions that I gave in (which I shouldn't have, but society has definitely conditioned girls to be su
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    Text - "Why don't you smile? You would look so much prettier if you smiled!" Gee thanks. Now fuck off. If I had a dollar for every time some variation of this was said to me while i was just trying to mind my own business, I could buy myself a bottle of wine that cost more than $20 for once.
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    Text - I'm older than you, but look like I'm 40. I just date younger men. It's sad too. I'd like a contemporary partner but it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks. I'll probably just remain single. I stopped faking it to feed their egos a long time ago. The thing is that really really like men of all ages. They are fucking awesome in so many natural ways They DON'T NEED TO PONTIFICATE or be my savior. Just be you FFS.
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    Text - "I'm gonna bend you over & fuck you until you explode!" Guys... a very small percentage of women get off on penetration alone. It's hard to fiddle your own bean while you're being slammed from behind. Every guy I've heard this from was an abysmal joke in bed. A few were actually offended as hell I was touching myself & did not take guidance at all. We know what our body responds to, you should probably listen cuz your juvenile jackhammering is not going to make most of us do anything but
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    Text - Using phrases like "dries you up like the Sahara." Edit: good morning and thanks for the gold! Both golds!
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    Text - Bragging about past sexual conquests. Instant conversation ender
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    Text - Men who don't clean up after themselves, or live in a filthy ass apartment with a filthy bathroom. If I run around cleaning after you like a mother...I don't want to have sex with you. If there's not even a nice place and clean towels for me to rinse my vag out afterward...I don't want to have sex with you.
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    Text - Pathological liars. Look, a little embellishment is expected, lying about your entire life and personality is gonna end shitty for us both. Don't waste both of our lives with that crap Example: I don't care how popular Twilight and Supernatural are, telling me you're a vampire is gonna raise an eyebrow without some irrefutable proof, and some major red flags regardless. (This actually happened to me, and dude was dead serious.) Also, chronically unbrushed teeth. As someone who's nearing a
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    Text - When a man boasts about how much money he makes, how much money he has to just spend around. Dated a dude who kept saying how he purchases cars for fun and loves to race them. Kept emphasizing how expensive his hobby was. When men AND women are easily angered by something so trivial. It becomes poisonous when they start affecting everyone around them. Just makes me not want to be around them at all, especially in a bedroom setting. Only focusing/talking about women sexually. I think it's
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    Text - Expecting us to be 'proper'. We have bodies too and yes they fart, and they burp and we should be able to do these things in the comfort of our own home. It's not ideal that any bodies do these but everyone's does so let's all just get over it. Also being cat called in any situation
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    Text - Being rude to service people. I have gone from being attracted to someone to immediately moving them to the "oh god, never ever" pile
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    Text - Bf: "Why are you so quiet? Are you angry with me?" Me: "No I'm just being quiet." fe: "No there's something wrong" Me: "Ehm, no there isn't?" Bf: "Yes you just don't want to tell me" Me: "Really baby nothing's wrong I'm just daydreaming" (5 minutes of this later) Bf: "Tell me what's wrong" Me: "WILL YOU JUST LEAVE ME ALONE" Bf: "See I knew it you were angry with me!"
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    Text - Neediness. Putting me on a pedestal. Treating me like I'm made of glass. I am a damn strong independent woman even though I might be half your size. Treat me like a person goddammit
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    Text - A man pouting if you decline sex. This happened with a couple different exs and I know of other women who talk about it. Gee, I'm just not in the mood; tired, have things to do, not feeling well, just NOT in the mood! He will pout and stomp around like a 5 year old told to go to bed without supper. "Oh that gets me hot! Yes, let's do it NOW! How sexy, to pretend you are immature and needy. I'll give you the best pity, obligation sex I can muster so you will leave me alone. Especially cons
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    Text - Bullying or rude to strangers (everyone comments behind closed doors but don't be rude to people and make there Day shit just cause you hate yourself)
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    Text - Overhearing men talk about their conquests in public or professional situations. I was out with my spouse on Friday and the table next to us was occupied by a few men in their mid-40s to early 50s who were clearly attending a conference together. One of them just would not shut up about banging a French woman at a conference in another city and went into a lot of detail about how she trimmed her hair, how her boobs were real, etc. Just super disrespectful. I can't imagine she would have l
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    Text - If I say I like something "non girly" (even though calling something girly or manly is stupid anyway) like, an action movie, game, favorite super hero, ect. And you think you have the right to "test" me on it in a non joking way like I'm just saying it to impress someone or making it up. Not only will that actually cause my vagina to invert into my body and close all orifices to you permanently, my body will go into manual override and start physically performing backflips on the spot unt
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    Text - Guys who treat women they don't find attractive like shit. You may be the hottest mf in here, but if you think you're too good to say thank you to the girl who just helped you with something or manage a few sentences of small talk to the person you just met, don't let the door hit you on your way out. Chivalry doesn't end where you don't want to put your dick
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    Text - Smoking/vaping. I have nothing against either in principle, but you can be the most attractive person in the world and it will still gross me out.
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    Text - Seeing it an increasing amount on Reddit lately. When people post their actions in italic alongside what they assume to be a nice compliment,it's so fucking creepy. Then they get angry when you don't suck them off in gratitude
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    Text - Laziness and lack of ambition. If you see me in the middle of cleaning the house or cooking a meal you will surely partake of, please get off the couch and make yourself something to drink. Maybe even grab the broom and help out. Your efforts will be appreciated. And please do not ask me to plan, coordinate, and execute everything that goes on in our lives beyond watching Netflix. I am not your secretary and I am definitely not your mother.
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    Text - Whining. Nobody likes a Danny Downer. I'm sure it's unfair that your boss doesn't recognize your obvious talent, or that you haven't had a date in years because women are all shallow and don't like "nice guys", or that any other trouble in your life is a product of circumstance and you can't be held accountable at all. Not saying that everything is a personal failing or that you've got to take hardships with a smile on your face, but handle it and then move on. If your go-to social mode i
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    Text - Making self-deprecating statements as a way to fish for compliments. I can literally feel my ovaries retracting.
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    Text - Confessing feelings for me, then acting like I'm somehow victimizing them or intentionally agitating their anxiety/ depression if I don't reciprocate Also, the whole "I could steal you from your boyfriend" bit. No, you couldn't, because you're unemployed and live with your mother, and you think that women are property and sluts.
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    Text - Sexism and/or toxic masculinity. Please note: not masculinity. Toxic masculinity. That's a very specific subset of behaviours, including aggression and the idea that showing emotion is weak. I ain't got time for that bullshit.
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    Text - You would be surprised how many guys I've encountered that speak negatively/ disrespect other women in front of me expecting me to think it's funny. If you comment your (negative/mean) opinion on another woman's body, I am not going to hook up with you. It doesn't make me feel better about myself or whatever you' re trying to achieve. It tells me you're an asshole who will probably do that behind my back too. Edit: Since apparently, this is a double standard, I would just like to point ou
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    Text - Excessive cockiness. Like I understand some situations may require a little bit of boyish cockiness, but god, if it's your personality, my vagina will crack from dryness.
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    Text - Being unnecessarily shocked when they find out you drive a manual car. Being even more shocked when they find out you drive a nicer car than they do. Related: Assuming you slept around with a bunch of car guys and that's how you know your way around cars.
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    Text - Brag about sexual "conquests" or penis size. What I like to call "aggressive heterosexuality" where even the idea of interacting with another man, or even things that are traditionally feminine, is repulsive to them. I knew a guy who really wanted a FMF threesome, but when I approached the topic of an MFM threesome, he got extremely disgusted at the idea of even being naked around another man.
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    Text - Those idiots who walk and spit everywhere, thinking they're cool and meanwhile they just look like fucking drooling apes
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    Text - "You're cute when you're angry," or worse "I want to see you angry!" Good way to guarantee you don't provoke any emotion except silent loathing.
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    Text - Comparing my genital area to a massive geological feature in Africa
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    Text - Even though I'm happily married I scanned the first 30 items to make sure I do none of them lol
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    Text - Constantly having to touch me, especially when we aren't in a relationship. I didn't consent, I said stop, get the fuck away from me.
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    Text - When he treats retail workers/servers like crap. Being embarrassed in public is not a turn on. One guy I dated did this and just called it being "assertive". I said take off the "ertive" and you'd be right.
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    Text - I was having a decent conversation with a guy. In the middle he added that "this tongue could go all night" with a weird tongue wiggle then winked? Quickly exited that conversation
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    Text - Calling me "baby" or "the prettiest girl" or "a beautiful girl" when we are talking for the first time ever. (Or even at all really.) Also, when on a dating site when guys don't talk to me how he talks to everyone else. They are always "on" and talk weird all the time. It's not engaging at all. The only guy I met with off a dating site talked to me like a normal person. We discussed video games and movies and stuff. He didn't try to impress me or compliment me or anything, he just showed
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    Text - Trying to be suggestive or overly sexual way too soon. Trying to ask me what I like sexually when I've known you for 45 minutes or assuming I'd like all the things you're explicitly stating that you'd do when it's our second or third time meeting creates so much second hand embarrassment it makes me want to vomit.
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    Text - If I'm kissing someone and I can smell that they don't wash their face / their facial hair smells gross. Too much tongue when kissing, I don't want you to lick all my teeth, thanks. Kissing me REALLY hard so that it's uncomfortable and I can't move my face while it's happening. What gives? You can't move your face either? How is that fun?
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    Text - Lack of motivation. Being on the couch so long your body takes on the shape of a giant slug.
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    Text - I was on POF a few days ago and this guy started off by talking about his dick size, when I told him I didn't want to know about it he kept telling me how he wasn't worth a girl like me, he's so ugly, I'm so beautiful, etc. You don't need to put yourself down to bring someone else up. I explained this to him and his response was along the lines of "well maybe l'll find someone who can look past my flaws besides relationships work better when the girl isn't so much hotter than the guy." I
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    Text - Anything to do with a fedora
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    Text - There's this really weirdly specific type of flirting that makes me want to punch dudes in the face. It's like.. where for whatever reason, they want to annoy you and piss you off? Like an example would be, I was going on a break at work and this random guy was like, "Oh! Break time! You don't get breaks." and I just ignored him and told my boss, "I'll be back" and the dude replied "Thanks for letting me know!" Like... listen, you little shit, you aren't cute and you aren't fucking funny.
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    Text - Being constantly insecure about your penis size. Nobody cares about it as much as you do. Guaranteed. Actually being constantly insecure full stop Being overtly obsessed with sex as if it's the only thing that matters in life and there is no other reason to spend time with women. Being an adult man who gets into fist fights.

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